FRIENDSHIPS (4 1/2 YRS OLD)
S has been asking momma some hard questions about friendship, basically relationships. Most of them stem from her play with her BFF Talia. Both girls are so different in their personality that momma thinks they have a great dynamics with each other.
On the flip side, because of their differences, S has been recently asking what to do when her friend Talia bosses her around or gets upset and angry. Momma thinks these are very good questions to ask and good learning points for S.
After a couple times at Auntie Fiona's pre-school, S said, "Sometimes, I don't want to do what Talia does." Momma asks, "So, what do you do about it?" S shrugged her shoulders and responded that, "I play what Talia wants but I don't want to sometimes. I want to play what I want to sometimes."
Momma asked "Why don't you play what you want to S?..." S reluctantly explained that she doesn't want Talia to get upset, cry or be mad at her. Momma realized that S has a tough time with T. She loves Talia so much that she doesn't want to upset Talia or make her cry and at the same time, she doesn't want to be the blunt of Talia's anger either.
Momma suggested some wordings: "Why don't we take turn playing what we want?" or "I'm going to take a break now and I'll return in a little bit." Momma also said, the tough things about friendship and relationships are that you have to accept the person as who they are. Talia will get upset easy and you have to accept it and figure out how to handle it.
Momma's not sure if S understands the advice but realizes this is difficult for a 4 yr old to understand and do.
S has been asking momma some hard questions about friendship, basically relationships. Most of them stem from her play with her BFF Talia. Both girls are so different in their personality that momma thinks they have a great dynamics with each other.
On the flip side, because of their differences, S has been recently asking what to do when her friend Talia bosses her around or gets upset and angry. Momma thinks these are very good questions to ask and good learning points for S.
After a couple times at Auntie Fiona's pre-school, S said, "Sometimes, I don't want to do what Talia does." Momma asks, "So, what do you do about it?" S shrugged her shoulders and responded that, "I play what Talia wants but I don't want to sometimes. I want to play what I want to sometimes."
Momma asked "Why don't you play what you want to S?..." S reluctantly explained that she doesn't want Talia to get upset, cry or be mad at her. Momma realized that S has a tough time with T. She loves Talia so much that she doesn't want to upset Talia or make her cry and at the same time, she doesn't want to be the blunt of Talia's anger either.
Momma suggested some wordings: "Why don't we take turn playing what we want?" or "I'm going to take a break now and I'll return in a little bit." Momma also said, the tough things about friendship and relationships are that you have to accept the person as who they are. Talia will get upset easy and you have to accept it and figure out how to handle it.
Momma's not sure if S understands the advice but realizes this is difficult for a 4 yr old to understand and do.
posted by Spunkerella @ 12:01 PM
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