LONELY (4 3/4 YRS OLD)
The hardest thing for momma to hear is when S says her heart (or feeling) hurts or she's lonely. Momma's own heart goes out to her and wishes that there was something she could do. Part of the problem for momma is that momma empathizes with S and remembers her own difficulties in making friends. But, momma can only make suggestions and S still has to figure out how to do it herself.
Today, at school, two boys wouldn't let S play on their playscape because it was their pirate ship. They told her to get off and pushed her off. Momma asked if the push hurt her and her response was "it hurt my feelings." Momma asked what she could do about it and she said, she looked for another person to play with. She found Lucy and they both painted the plants with some water and paint brushes. (Despite finding someone else to play with, S is still heartbroken).
Later this evening, S struggled to figure out how to play with Gwenny, Talia, and Ella. After the movie, she sat in the car and sobbed for a little bit, saying she was lonely. Her two dearest friends Talia and Ella didn't want to play with her and were vying for Gwenny's attention. S was left out and couldn't figure out how to be included. When momma asked what she could do; S said, she just ignored Gwenny (the cause of her misfortune). Momma suggested the opposite. That next time, she should ask to join in.
Poor S! Her heart is too fragile. Figuring out how to interact and to make friends is not one of momma strong traits and wishes that daddy could help. But, honestly, daddy probably feels as helpless (if not more so) than momma. S will have to figure this out by herself.
The hardest thing for momma to hear is when S says her heart (or feeling) hurts or she's lonely. Momma's own heart goes out to her and wishes that there was something she could do. Part of the problem for momma is that momma empathizes with S and remembers her own difficulties in making friends. But, momma can only make suggestions and S still has to figure out how to do it herself.
Today, at school, two boys wouldn't let S play on their playscape because it was their pirate ship. They told her to get off and pushed her off. Momma asked if the push hurt her and her response was "it hurt my feelings." Momma asked what she could do about it and she said, she looked for another person to play with. She found Lucy and they both painted the plants with some water and paint brushes. (Despite finding someone else to play with, S is still heartbroken).
Later this evening, S struggled to figure out how to play with Gwenny, Talia, and Ella. After the movie, she sat in the car and sobbed for a little bit, saying she was lonely. Her two dearest friends Talia and Ella didn't want to play with her and were vying for Gwenny's attention. S was left out and couldn't figure out how to be included. When momma asked what she could do; S said, she just ignored Gwenny (the cause of her misfortune). Momma suggested the opposite. That next time, she should ask to join in.
Poor S! Her heart is too fragile. Figuring out how to interact and to make friends is not one of momma strong traits and wishes that daddy could help. But, honestly, daddy probably feels as helpless (if not more so) than momma. S will have to figure this out by herself.
posted by Spunkerella @ 8:50 PM
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